It’s Saturday night (at least I think it is), and I find myself sitting in a corner at Los Angeles airport with tears streaming down my cheeks. My jeans are ripped and my clothes smell…and I’m hungry…in short, I’m feeling incredibly sorry for myself.
How did I get here?
Well, it all started a few weeks back when I get a phone call from my boss asking if I was available to go to a workshop in New York. Hmm…let me think about this, check my diary… HELLL YES PLEASE, I want to go! Getting to New York has been a not so secret dream of mine for some time now. It’s on the vision board for goodness sake…I was beginning to wonder when it would finally manifest itself after several close encounters over the last year that fizzled and died.
I don’t know why New York had suddenly become so important in my world but there was something about the opportunity to not only connect and work with some of the most respected people in my discipline, but to do so in such an iconic city (where, last time I visited was when I backpacked with my husband and we stayed at a hostel… which I figured out was 18years ago…ouch).
Of course, the timing wasn’t great. I would need to fly out on the weekend, directly after my Sister arrived from overseas to visit our family. Plus, my husband also had some work travel scheduled. But after some creative juggling and yet again help from the parents (thank you!)…I was on my way.
New York was exactly as I imagined it might be. I didn’t feel jetlag because I think I was flying on adrenalin for at least the first four days. I felt like I belonged. I felt like I had found “my people” at work and I spent joyously long days rabbiting about the things that confound me at work and getting their opinions on everything that we do. I was amazed at the differences and the significant similarities between issues from country to country. I even made time for some sightseeing and wander down the streets of New York pretending I was indeed, part of Sex in the City.
And then it was time to come home. A tropical summer storm (in New York…yes…really) saw my plane to Dallas delayed and that is when things started going horribly wrong. Suddenly I was waiting in a long queue for customer service in the airport, after I missed my connecting flight to Australia. Around me, airport shops were shutting and they were rolling out rows of stretches with blankets in the corridors. The service assistant (after 1 1/2hrs in the queue and well after midnight), tells me that there no more flights back to Australia until the next night, and I would have to fly to LA to get them. She offered up a stretcher for me to have some rest.
As I sat contemplating my fate on the stretcher, it suddenly occurred to me that perhaps work did not expect for me to sleep on the floor at the airport and I promptly found myself a hotel. After a decent sleep at the hotel, I was feeling a little more positive. I could do this. I had called my husband to tell him I was delayed by 24hrs, which turned out to be rather a major problem because he had to fly out for another job himself, but he organised to ship the children to my sister in-law (thank you!) and we were back on track.
I decide that perhaps I should do some Yoga stretches in my hotel room, to help calm myself for the rest of my journey and after a few lovely vinyasa’s, I hear and feel a big rip as the inside thigh of my jeans rips across my leg. Of course, I had no bags, as my bags were being held hostage at the airport…so I had no choice but to continue on as if nothing had happened and complete my trip with ripped trousers. After all, surely I would be able to find something at the airport to buy (turns out not…actually).
After being on standby for several hours, I somehow snatch a last minute pass onto a plane and I am finally on my way to LA. And after some serious navigation issues, also manage to find my way to the right gate at the international airport. When I sit down with a thump and look up to the screen and realise with a horrible feeling in the pit of my stomach… that my plane was….DELAYED.
This time, I broke. Oh my goodness, it felt like I was never going to get home. I had been wearing the same clothes for days, literally. My pants were ripped. I was oh so tired. I missed home. I missed the kids.
What the hell was I thinking when I agreed to go overseas? Why did I not realise that it would be too much. That it would be the straw that broke the camels back. The juggling work and home is so hard at the best of times. Now this was just a cruel way for the universe to tell me that I was pushing my luck. That I didn’t need to do this. I could have been safe and comfortable at home, all this time. It isn’t worth it.
I finally boarded the plane and started to relax as I realised that I would…eventually…make it home. And I was reading through some of the notes I had made on the trip and I found this quote.
“Get in over your head as often and as joyfully as possible” – Alexander Isley
It was written on the wall of one of our offices, and I had written it down because I think we have become very negative about trying to “have it all” that perhaps we’ve swung the pendulum the other way and now everyone is stressed that they are trying to do too much.
So it made me think. Even though the end of my trip was a little bit of disaster(ok..a lot of a disaster)… wasn’t it worth it for all the experiences that I had? We forget that maybe sometimes, throwing yourself into life…ALL IN… can at least make life interesting.
And I’ve learnt something new…next time… take an extra pair of trousers in your check in baggage. I have never been so happy as I when I saw my bag slide onto the baggage carousel at the other end, at least the airline got that bit right.
When was the last time that you got yourself in over your head?