Ahhh…overthinking things, it’s one of my favourite party tricks and one that challenges me on a daily basis. How do I stop my whirlwind of a mind going from topic to topic in a split second, whirring around creating chaos but no real outcomes or results.
My husband came home yesterday after delivering a presentation at work, and was explaining how all through the presentation, he was talking to himself in his head. His mind was saying things like “slow down, you’re talking to fast”, “what did you say that for”, “that’s better, now you’ve got it” “you missed a bit” etc etc. Is this normal? Hell yeah, my day is completely covered by a running commentary from in my head….if I was starring in a film, I’d have voice over narration all the way through. If you’ve seen the show “Offspring” from Australia, they demonstrate this really well by narrating the kind of thoughts “Nina” is having during scenes…hilarious…because we can all relate to it!
“Not being able to stop thinking is a dreadful affliction, but we don’t realise this because almost everybody is suffering from it, so it is considered normal” – Eckhart Tolle.
So how do I try to slow my mind down, quiet the voice and allow myself to focus on one thing at a time? Of course, you know what I’m going to say here, because we all know it but not many of us practice it every day. Officially known as meditation, but I like to simply call it a “brain break”. Taking a moment from your day where you just slow right down. Stop. Breath. Focus on the breath coming in and out. Notice it. When I first started to try this, I got really frustrated with all the thoughts that constantly bubble to the surface …breath in (“what shall I have for breakfast today”) …breath out (“was that our dog barking?”) …breath in (“I wonder if Bob has sent that email I need”)…breath out…you get the picture. At first I tried not to think, to stop it happening…and just got more and more annoyed when they came. THIS IS NOT RELAXING IT IS ANNOYING!!
It was only when I accepted that having the thoughts is OK, the trick is simply not to follow them. To be an observer, not to react. Oh…look at that…a thought about breakfast…then let it go. Sometimes I imagine my thoughts as balloons, floating up and disappearing. Balloon gone. Re-focus on your breath. Repeat repeat repeat. And after a while, the thoughts do slow. The time passes, and when I return to work, my mind does feel refreshed and ready to go again. Our brains are incredible, but sometimes, they just need a mini-break.
And on that note…I’m thinking it might be time for a little break, some tea, sunshine and big deep breaths on the veranda. Anyone else ready for a brain break?