Gossiping…don’t get sucked into the vortex

woman-gossip-18967767I’m feeling a bit down this week,  dragged down by office gossip and politics.   It all started innocently enough,  sharing a few frustrations with colleagues… there is something reassuring about knowing that others are feeling the same way you do,  struggling to interact with another colleague or getting annoyed with dealing with bureaucracy.   But it’s a slippery slope my friends, and once I was on the hill I started sliding down.   Venting frustrations became bitching and moaning.  Next thing I know, there’s an all mighty sling fest going on and everyone is spiraling down together.  Gosh, do I even want to work here anymore?!

Wait a minute, I totally love my job,  what happened here?  I’ve been sucked into the vortex and I don’t want to be here.   Time for some re-framing action.

Firstly, STOP sharing frustrations.   Venting time is over and OUT.    Secondly,  focus on MY problems only.  Whilst it is reassuring to know others are also struggling, I can’t let myself get frustrated by everyone elses issues.  What are the issues really impacting me?  How can I use my strengths (VIA Strengths…I love them) here?  Maybe if I come up with a solution for me,  I can share it with this others and start a positive spiral of hope and….my favourite….pragmatic optimism.

And maybe,  when the time is right,  a few funny Cat videos from YouTube might give everyone some well needed perspective!?